Forgiveness: Choosing Freedom Over Chains
- Tug Taviano
- Sep 22
- 2 min read
Forgiveness is one of the hardest choices we’re ever called to make. When someone hurts us deeply, the natural response is to hold on to the pain, replay the offense, and keep the wound fresh. But as Erika Kirk wisely reminds us:
“Forgiveness is less about the other person and more about freeing yourself.”
That truth changes everything. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing the wrong or pretending it never happened. It’s about releasing yourself from the prison of bitterness and stepping into the freedom God desires for you.
Why Forgiveness Matters for You
When you cling to anger or resentment, you may think you’re punishing the other person—but in reality, you’re punishing yourself. Unforgiveness weighs you down, steals your peace, and often spills into other areas of your life.
Scripture calls us to let go:“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32
Forgiveness doesn’t make you weak. It makes you free.
What Forgiveness Is (and Isn’t)
It is a release of bitterness from your heart.
It is trusting God to carry the justice you cannot.
It isn’t saying what happened was okay.
It isn’t instant reconciliation if the relationship is unsafe or unhealthy.
Forgiveness is choosing freedom over chains.
How to Begin Forgiving
Pray HonestlyTell God exactly how you feel. He can handle your anger, confusion, and pain.
Release DailyForgiveness is often a process. Each time the hurt resurfaces, choose to hand it back to God.
Shift Your FocusInstead of replaying the offense, remind yourself of the freedom you gain by forgiving.
Seek SupportTrusted friends, pastors, or counselors can walk with you through deep wounds.
Reflection for the Heart
Who am I still holding captive with unforgiveness?
How has holding onto this hurt affected my peace?
What would my life look like if I let go today?
Take a moment to pray:“Lord, I choose to forgive—not because they deserve it, but because You forgave me. I don’t want to carry this anymore. I want to live free.”
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